ceretah wak amang,..

(adapted from Dare to Fail 4th Ed.: Billy Lim)

to be competitive is good but with whom are we competing? in the field of competition, there are always winners and losers,.. for every winner, there is always a number of losers,.. how do you take it when you lose? what if your friends are getting ahead of you? what if you failed to succeed? what if you left behind?

it all boils down to who you are competing against,.. many people get caught and their lives become miserable,.. we shouldn't be competing with others, we should be co-operating with others and competing with ourselves,.. the others are for us to use as a yard-stick and nothing more than that,..

"for every winner, there is always a loser,.. if we compete with ourselves and we lose, WHO WINS? think about it,.."

many people have been trained to equate success with victory, to equate doing well with beating someone,.. it leads people to assume that only competing against others can lead to achievement and that only by putting one's own-interest first can one become successful,.. Dr Robert Helmreich (psychologist, University of Texas) shows that co-operation with others is much more productive than competition against others,.. to make one person's success dependent on another person's failure (win/lose syndrome) is naturally disruptive and counter productive,..

yes, you are your own greatest competitor,.. but the wrong sense of competing with others has made many people so worried that they begin to think that they just cannot afford to fail,..

contrary to normal perception,

achievers actually fail more times than non-achievers,..

simply because they try more times than non-achievers,..

(Billy Lim)

Dare to Fail 4th Ed.

the great characters of the world have been those who had struggle against all kinds of hardships,.. if you are not having a hard time, you are not developing your character,.. if things are going easy for you, you are not amounting anything,.. you can never be anything because you are not doing anything,..

(Billy Lim)

Dare to Fail 4th Ed.

the battle of life, in most cases is fought uphill, and to win it without a struggle is almost like winning without honour,.. if there were no difficulties, there would be nothing to struggle for, there would be nothing to be achieved,.. difficulties may intimidate the weak, but they act only as a wholesome stimulus to men of resolution and valor,.. all experience of life, indeed serves to prove that the impediments thrown in the way of human advancement may, for the most part, be overcome by steady good conduct, honest zeal, activity, perseverance, and by a determination to overcome difficulties,..

(Edmund Burke)

once two dejected assistants of Thomas Edison said: "we've just completed our seven hundredth experiment and we still don't have the answer. we have failed,.."

"no, my friends, you haven't failed,.." replied Mr. Edison. "it's just that we know more about this subject than anyone else alive. and we are closer to finding the answer because now we know seven hundred things not to do. don't call it a mistake. call it an 'education'.

(Billy Lim)

Dare to Fail 4th Ed.

there is neither picture nor word could explain on what i feel towards people that are annoying,.. i did never not feeling angry and discomfort in socializing with this guy,.. haaha, it was my fault since i am the one who started the conversation at facebook just now,..

i spent my time online at community sites and reading my favourite blog since i planned to free my mind tonight, from all those notes on fish diseases and feed culture,.. and, i really wished that this time could be used to keep in touch with my friends, knowing what's the latest happening,..

this particular guy was a dearly best friend of mine, long time ago,.. it was really good to be together, mixing with different ethnic groups and cultures,.. however, i began to feel annoyed with his behaviour once he started to disrespect others,.. speaking without thinking, not concern about others people feeling,..

actually, at that time i thought i am the one who was problematic, because my feeling of being annoyed had turned into hatred,.. but, most of my coursemates seemed like to have joined my ship,.. this feeling reached its climax once he moved to my apartment, expressing his annoyance, now in a daily regime,.. that moment never failed in enriching my life with stress and discomfort,..

graduation day should marked the end of everything,.. during my time here in terengganu, i always flashed back most of the memory of the undergraduates,.. i opened the old picture album, and screen through all of it,.. it was really an unforgettable moment!! of sweet and sour of life,..

it's not how many idea you have,

it's how many you make happen,..

(Nurfadhilah Rahim)